“Failure is a stepping stone to success, a challenge to overcome not to be undone”
The “f” word… failure, is one of the most misused and misunderstood words in our language. We use the word against ourselves as a label rather than what it is… an obstacle or challenge in our path.
When it isn’t challenged, the label gains traction in our inner voice fueled by shame which then quickly cascades into loss of courage and fear of risk.
I know this because I used the “f” word against myself as a child when I did poorly on my first algebra exam and quickly confirmed it in my mind with the culturally-accepted mantra, “girls don’t do well in math.”
Here are a few stories of people who have “failed” their way up to achieve both success and significance as well:
Fired as a television reporter for getting too emotionally invested in her stories – Oprah
Advised by her acting coach that “she’s wasting her time and ours” – Lucille Ball
Rejected by the film school at USC – Steven Spielberg
Depressed, divorced and nearly penniless, her manuscript was turned down 12 times before she succeeded – J.K. Rowling
“Life is like a camera… Focus on what’s important, Capture the good time, Develop from the negatives, And if things don’t work out, Take another shot.”
-Laurie Greiner, Shark Tank investor/inventor
So, let’s turn our fear of the “F” word – failure, and reframe it into a challenge on our road to success. Yes, we’ve all felt that “kick in the face” or a stomach ache when it first happens. But, what we do with this common first-reaction emotion is the key to our success. Don’t ignore but rather acknowledge your feelings.
Take a little time, get a little help from your friends, then pick it up, pack it up and move it on out into action!
As always, be good to yourself,